Sweet Obsession...

Sweet Obsession has gotten some lovely reviews so far! Yay!

I’ve been thinking about something that was written in one of the reviews of Sweet Obsession about Sasha.

I’m kind of an old lady. My twenties were quite a few years ago, but I know in my twenties, even as a married woman, I was still figuring out a lot of things about sex. I did not know that BDSM existed. Maybe the world has changed since then. Is BDSM so mainstream now that young women in their twenties know all about it and understand it? I get that Fifty Shades of Grey may have opened people’s eyes to some things, but that wasn’t a really deep exploration of BDSM. Is it not realistic that a young woman who fantasizes about certain things tries to deny what she really wants because it’s been drilled into her head that they’re bad, wrong and dangerous? That letting a man hit you is abuse? That putting yourself into a vulnerable position with a man and allowing that is the height of stupidity?

Maybe those of us who read a lot of BDSM romances think that everyone else in the world gets this. But I don’t think that’s the case. I bet there are a lot of people who don't get BDSM and do believe it's dangerous and wrong. And I think Sasha learning to accept that part of herself despite all those years of feeling shame and guilt was a more difficult journey than just one day admitting what she really wants and needs.

I think there are all kinds of sexual hang-ups that people work a lifetime to overcome, to not be ashamed of. I bet there are things some people never overcome and live their whole lives feeling ashamed of. I don’t think it’s a matter of just snapping out of it. What do you think?

Kelly JamiesonApril 4, 2014Comment